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Thankful? Not entirely sure..

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I haven’t been feeling very thankful this holiday season. I have been uninspired and lacking motivation.

There has been a constant internal struggle about the blogging world I so excitedly joined almost  a year back. I am not entirely sure whether my blog makes a difference in someone’s day.. maybe make you smile or think or make you feel better about yourself.. I always wanted my blog to be more than just fashion. Please don’t get me wrong. I love the world of fashion and getting dolled up. But what I love even more is making you guys feel awesome about yourself!! I seriously want every woman (men are welcome! No discrimination) who reads my blog to feel good about herself and just be comfortable in her own skin.  But is that happening? I don’t know!

So I think this is a call for help. If you read my posts and feel even a tiny bit connected and happy, tell me.. Send me a message or comment below..I need your help in validating that this is not a waste. I know I know that I should be blogging for myself and not looking for external validation etc etc etc.. But I always try to keep it real and sometimes need a dose of the positivity I am trying to spread.. ☺️

Love, M ❤️

FYI this is the face we are talking about!! 🙈

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  2. I resonate with everything you’ve mentioned here Monika! I started blogging because needed something to keep myself occupied and less feeling of an underachiever. Initially I was happy because I was getting to do everything from wearing trendy clothes, experimenting with them, being infront of the camera, learning smaller things about setting up your own website, getting dressed up(I’m a PJ person, I can literally walk around in them if need be) so doing all of that was a big thing for me! I celebrated small joys when I got 100 likes, when I reached 1000 followers on Instagram, when I came across amazing bloggers like you all, it was a win for me. But slowly a year later things suddenly changed in my mind, I felt like an idiot for doing what I was doing and I started to critically analyze everything I did. I started to pick on small mistakes of mine, I started to compare and looked down upon myself and for a while I went back into my shell. But one day I got a message from one reader and she said she genuinely liked what I did and what I put on my blog. I can’t tell you how heartfelt that message was and everything came back to me. It struck me that I started this blog with only one aim to feel good about myself by sharing my fashion stories (my version of fashion😆) and to just be creative. In life we will often lose sight of what we do, why we do it and for whom are we doing it, always keep asking yourself these things. That moment I realized that blogging is supposed to boost my morale and make me happy and not being bring me down. We all have our own struggles and we have to get up and push ourselves everyday. It’s going to be difficult for sure but again life is never meant to be easy. So you need to keep doing the amazing job that you’re doing with your positive posts. You never know, your posts may be the reason for someone’s smile on a bad day. Don’t judge your work, don’t keep questioning if someone’s reading or not, you just keep doing what you are supposed to with all your heart. This will make you happy and that happiness will also spread through your posts. I hope my message makes a difference and you feel better. Always looking forward to reading your posts!Phew, I need water for the amount I spoke, lol. Happy long weekend and happy shopping 🙂

    1. Swati THANK YOU!. I took the longest time to approve and reply to your message because I wanted to frame my response as beautiful as your comment. But you know what? I am just going to say THANK YOU!!! Your comment is everything I was trying to say but couldnt. You are a beautiful writer and thank you for making me think about my reasons for blogging.I thought hard and realized that it makes me happy.period. Reason enough to keep writing.:) My response may not do justice to the beautiful comment but please know that in my heart, I will forever be thankful for this. Lots of love and positivity coming your way :* <3

      1. All the things that i feel but never really had courage to ask or share with everyone is what you both have said here! I guess we all are in the same boat but forget each & every time why we started blogging in the first place! I have a full time job but i still wanted something that takes my mind off from all the other struggles in life and sharing my love for fusion styles to make myself feel good and more confident about me, but sooner or later i started feeling small & stupid relying on the number of likes or followers on social media! But that’s not why i started blogging. You both are inspiring beautiful writers and thank you for making me think about my reasons for blogging. Lots of love to you both <3

        1. I so agree with you Tanvi! Sometimes it gets so difficult to clearly see the reason why we started blogging and hearing all the wonderful ladies share there experiences helps alot.. I have been obsessed with numbers so many times and it just saps everything out of you. So now my focus is creating fun and valuable content which I know you all also do.. So cheers to not caring about numbers but making connections :*

  4. I always look forward to notifications in my inbox of your new posts. The reason why I love reading your posts is that you combine fashion with some great gyan in a nice humorous style. I can connect with so many thoughts that your write about. I do look forward to reading more of your inspiring thoughts!
    P.S. Book suggestion to motivate you and inspire you this Thanksgiving season – The Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin

    1. Thank you so much Shubhi! Messages like yours make me want to keep writing and sharing all the gyaan 🙂 Thank you for taking out time to tell me its not a waste afterall.. Oh I actually have that book. Never got around to read it but I am definitely doing it now! Hope you are doing good. <3

  6. Why blog ? you should move to books soon 😀 your blogs are a dose of happiness , positivity and happiness ! ooppss i said happiness twice 😀 seeeeeee !!!

    Keep it coming.
    XOXO

  8. I can understand what u say dear, most of us, bloggers go through this ! It’s just a phase. Even I sometimes wonder, that if my blog make a difference to any one? Lol..
    I feel Blogging is an extension of oneself and trust me you are doing a fantastic job. Continue dear 🙂 hugs

    Nischita | http://www.myblackskirt.com

  9. i feel the same so many times but i always go back to the main reason i started blogging which was to make friends and be connected with people with similar mindset and passion, so my dear monika please keep going, not just ur blog i also love u on instagram and ur instagram storiesl!look forward to u, ur sweet comments and i am thankful we connected through this medium.
    http://www.thestyletune.com

  10. We all have ups and downs… I think if you blog it should be for yourself. Because you want to do it, because you enjoy it and want to have a voice in the community. Its fab when you get a lot of visits and comments but the real interactions with long time followers is what counts for me 😉
    Keep up that spirit –

  11. I don’t know how many times I have gone through such phases.
    Sometimes I take a break. Sometimes I think maybe even if I make a difference for one person, it is worth it.
    I can so feel related to your posts. Keep it coming girl and keep it real as always.
    Richa | Fancier’s World

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