Fashion, Life, Positivity

To compare or not to compare

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As you already know, I am obsessed with YouTube. I love how people on YouTube find hidden beaches where they eat fruits, read books, listen to music; in short be all worldly and exotic! Obviously I wanted to experience something similar. Duhh. And I can happily report to you guys that my dream came true this past weekend. Except, in place of fruits I had potato chips and coffee cake! Okay now let’s not judge. 😼 But why am I telling you about this?  I don’t know.. I just thought maybe it’s a good idea to start my blog by sharing how earth shattering my dreams are..

Now let’s talk about some serious stuff. C’mon it’s my blog, what else did you expect? Ofcourse I’ll preach. Sit back and soak in some amazing knowledge about to come your way. So I was extremely excited to shoot for this blog in and around the beach area. I kept thinking ‘oh man this look is going to come out soo well and will blow up the internet’ bla bla.. I was smiling internally and feeling pretty darn good. Boom walks in an amazingly gorgeous woman with a professional photographer and starts taking pictures that were billboard worthy. She had an amazing body, beautiful face and even better poses. Well, I am generally a confident person and think pretty highly of myself.😏 Anywho, my confidence after looking at her strut and pose so beautifully kinda went from 250% to -2500%. I had a choice to either sink into my invisibility cloak (you want one too? I can hook you up with my boy Potter) or get up and take pics infront of everyone who just witnessed a model worthy photoshoot. Any guesses which path I took? Yes, you are absolutely right! I got up confidently and did the photoshoot without a care in the world…. Oh wait.. That’s what I did in my imaginary world but in reality, I wore my invisibility cloak and beat myself up for not being the most gorgeous woman on earth!

Yes my friends, I am not as cool as you may think. Being honest, I have always struggled with comparing myself to others. But I am trying pretty hard from past few years to overcome this all-encompassing  feeling of checking out everyone else’s grass/lawn/garden/home/style/intellect/basically everything. Apart from all the logical reasons, comparison is extremely tiring and detrimental to your sanity. Always looking at what others are doing and how you can be better than them takes a huge toll.  Slowly and steadily I am accepting that there will always be someone who is better looking, smarter, keeps the house cleaner, dresses better or even boils eggs better! But  I always remind myself that not all the above mentioned + more qualities are packaged into a single person. For ex. I can’t sing to save my life but I make lip-smacking rajma/chawal (Indian delicacy). In that sense, someone should be jealous of me also right!? Secondly, accepting that being ordinary is alright can do wonders. Check out my previous post where I talk about why perfection is overrated. In short, I am learning to let go of the obsessive need to see what others are upto and focus on my own kick-ass grass that has unicorns, candies, clothes and all that wonderful stuff. 😎

Coming back to my original story, after pondering for an hour, I decided to remove my invisibility cloak. I got up, posed awkwardly for a couple of minutes and then decided to have a blast.. And you know what? Even the lamest poses look good when you are having fun. So let’s fake it till we make it!! Oh also, if you did not notice, I am proudly flaunting almost-Jeetendra style here.. Who knew he was such a fashion icon right!? ✌🏽

ps- For my non-Indian friends, he is a huge yesteryear star back home and famous for wearing all white.

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Moral of this post? Stop comparing yourself to others. YOU are AWESOME, I am AWESOME, EVERYONE is AWESOME! – Love, Monika ❤️

OUTFIT DETAILS
Sweater – Old Navy (similar) – $25
Shorts – Old Navy – $25
Shoes – Forever 21 – $10
Neckpiece – Old Navy
Bag – Macy’s (bought it a couple of years back) – $10
Glasses – Ray Ban – $160

 

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24 comments

  2. What an inspiring post. We all suffer from those moments. I’ve really been going through one of those phases lately myself but it was so empowering that you didn’t let your own comparisson take over. Your photo shoot turned out insanely gorgeous and you exude beauty!

  3. It is so difficult not to compare ourselves with other people!! I am just growing my blog (blondeandambitiousblog.wordpress.com) and I feel like I will never get to where other people are!!

  4. Such a beautiful post, and I couldn’t agree more! I kept nodding my head, and smiling to myself, thinking how I could empathize with every word of yours! That’s exactly how I feel every time I’m posting a look!! 🙃🙃But, at the end, just like the title of your previous post, “perfection is overrated”!! And, everyone is awesome in their own sweet way. Brilliantly written babe! I wish I could write like you 😍😍😘 Have a great day 😘😘

    Love,
    Supritha
    http://www.LoveLaceandLouboutins.com

  5. I love your poses! They look so natural and best of all you are smiling and having fun. I think everyone can get a little insecure at times when taking photos, but I’m glad you got over it and started shooting away cuz they turned out beautiful!

  9. Great post babe! Comparing ourselves with other, we all make this mistake and waste our precious time. Everyone is beautiful in their own way.
    Look at you, you look so gorgeous in those pictures with that beautiful smile.
    Keep smiling always! 🙂

    XOXO
    Rita | http://www.styleroundtheclock.com

  11. Inspiring words Monika! I can definitely see from your photos that you are comfortable and having fun–which is important because it made you genuine. Cheers to us ladies who are focused in their own unicorns, candies, clothes and for me castles (wherein we our the queen). Stunning look darling! xx

    http://www.prettyweirdbombshell.com

  12. It’s so good that you found a hidden beach and had some fun there – your way 🙂
    Of course, it’s something natural to compare, as long as we keep it in healthy borders and for the good reasons, it’s totally ok.

  16. I always love your preaching! Haha! I’m sure we all have our “invisibility cloak” moments! But I feel comparisons are always unfair. We typically compare the worst we know of ourselves to the best we presume about others. The only solution is compare less and appreciate more. Also finding inspiration and learning from others instead of comparing is entirely wise. That was a very inspiring post indeed! Thank you so much for sharing Monika!And you look fabulous in all the pictures with all your cute poses. Hehe! Love your outfit. Beautiful location and pictures as always! Have a great day, babe!

  19. Great minds think alike.
    I also found this place, through google search though when I visited San Francisco. 😉
    Other part where I am with you is the comparison part.
    It was very draining, and then I thought there will always be someone out there who is better. So just find your own unique direction.
    Besides that, I think Jeetu ji will be very proud 😀
    You are slayin’ it girl! Keep Rocking.
    Richa | Fancier’s World