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Blogging for a year..And still not famous..😐

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Blogging journey started for me almost a year back wearing the exact same sweater. *same sweater = reason enough to write this post 🙈*. It has been a bumpy but oh-so-exciting ride. I thought it will be fun to share some of the obnoxious ideas I had before starting the blog and some of the positivity that has come my way in this past year..

EXPECTATION VS REALITY
Expectation – Paparazzi will follow me everywhere

Cmn folks I had my strut figured out..

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I am not  kidding. I actually thought that fame will knock at my doorstep the moment I publish my first post. Throw in some interviews by top-notch channels and maybe a reality series following my success story. I was dead sure that the blogging world was about to be shaken after all I had some “special” quality😎which none of the other “few hundred” bloggers had. I seriously thought there were only a few hundred bloggers here and there.  Oh my dream world was so so magical..

Reality  – What was I thinking?

😂 You delusional woman!

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How naive was I! There are millions and millions of blogs out there with superwoman qualities *not just special*!. This came as a shock. How dare my dreams of being a solo blogger achieving fame beyond words shatter so soon.. 😲

PS – If forcing my sister to compliment and share every post of mine counts as fame, then yes I think I did okay!

Expectation – My social media following would easily reach 100,000, if not more, within few months

Cmn look at my fancy pics.. all mysterious and model-lish.. 😼

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I had that special quality, rememberrrrr. It was just a matter of time before the world recognized it and started following me. I was so sure that people would be dying to know more about this sensation.🌟

Reality – What waaaasssss I thinking??

😂 😂 You super delusional woman!

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I lose more followers daily than gain new ones. Most of the people who religiously follow me are my family and friends.  Oh well, I didn’t even achieve the “s” of “sensation”. 🐒 IT WAS A SHOCK. How dare the world dismiss me? Don’t they want to know all about me 24*7!

Expectation – Brands would be dying to work with me

Cmn look at this face. Ok a little on the rounder side but still. I rest my case. 🐒

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Ok I get it that I was naive.. But I seriously thought  brands *not just any but high end one’s* would be lining up and waiting for me to endorse them.

Reality – Whaaattt waaasssss I thinking!!!??

😂 😂 😂 You super duper delusional woman!

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I have not worked with even a single brand. And that’s my mistake. I hope to change it soon because no brand is ever small if it provides value and quality..

Expectation – Blogging is all about getting dressed and clicking some pretty pictures

Cmn I am so photogenic, what else do I need..

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I like dressing up. I love getting photographed. I kinda look decent in pics if I can work my angle to hide my long nose.. I thought blogging will be a piece of cake. Snap, click, post.. Ha what an easy world I was about to become a part of.

Reality – Whaaaattt waaaasss I thinkinnngggg ?????!!!

😂 😂 😂 😂 You super duper duper delusional woman!

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Yes, I feel stupid even saying this but I actually thought blogging was  easy. All you do is get ready, take photos and go along with your day. Oh my lord!!!! How insanely wrong I was! Blogging takes up majority of my time.. I’ll be writing another post describing behind the scene details.. But trust me when I say, blogging is a 24*7 job most of the days..

  I can go on and on about what I thought blogging was going to be and what it turned out to be. But the response for every expectation will always be this –

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BUT I have grown wiser and smarter.. Or atleast I think I have.. That brings me to the actual good stuff..

WHAT THE BLOG HAS GIVEN ME AND I AM ETERNALLY GRATEFUL FOR
Getting comfortable with myself 

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As I started writing about my struggles, I started healing.. Slowly and steadily. Whether it was body issues or mental health, talking about it made me feel lighter and more stronger. Before starting this blog, any conversation related to weight, shape and size always made me extremely uncomfortable. But as I became more vocal about my feelings and struggles,  the negative voices in my head started dying.. I am so so so so thankful for it. Sharing my thoughts with you all made them less scary. My original idea of perfection started changing  and I started getting more comfortable in my own skin. I may not have gotten fame but what I got is even more special. I still have a long way to go but having a medium to share the struggles all of us go through has been so liberating.

The sweet messages I receive

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I may not have 100,000 followers but I have my tribe of people who always send love. My heart soars with happiness when I get a message from one of you letting me know that what I wrote struck a chord or made you smile and feel good. Being honest, I want my readers to feel like goddesses when they leave this space. And that’s what I am going to keep striving for!

THANK YOU  for being consistent with me even though my blogging hasn’t been very consistent. ☺️

Blogger friends I made

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Blogging taught me that you can be friends with people in the same space (so called ‘competitors’)..  I have met so many amazing bloggers virtually who are always encouraging and positive. It is inspiring to see that not everyone out there is trying to sabotage your success. Sending love and positive vibes to all you wonderful ladies. ❤️

WHAT I STRIVE TO ACHIEVE GOING FORWARD WITH THE BLOG

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Be Consistent

And I have been terrible at it. Ya’ll know! 🙈 Too many breaks taken, some for legit reasons.. some because I was lazy.. some because I lost motivation.. But after everything said and done, I want to be consistent moving forward. My aim is to publish once a week and I want to stick to it. Too many areas of my life have been a disappointment in terms of being consistent and I don’t want blogging to be one of them.

Don’t get obsessed with the outcome

I want to create because I love creating.. This past year I got pretty obsessed with being a “success” and the “number” of people reading my content/following me. I know I know pretty terrible. But I am being honest! I still want the world to read everything I write but now my purpose for writing is switching it’s direction. I LOVE TO WRITE AND BLOG. And that’s reason/motivation enough to keep sharing.  ☺️

Don’t get obsessed with social media

I need to stop checking instagram every 2 min!!!! Like seriously girl, get a grip on yourself. Now I understand why everyone keeps saying that social media can get unhealthy. Don’t get me wrong, I love love love sharing and following but I need to learn to keep tabs on how much time is being spent on it.

More fun content

I want to create more fun content, more badass content and more relevant content for you all. More importantly, content that makes each one of you feel strong, confident, loved and like a fabulous queen of her world who can kick ass and achieve all her goals! 😎

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I hope you all have enjoyed my journey so far and will continue doing so. I truly and honestly am so thankful for the love. Feel free to share anything you want in the comment section.. Maybe tips to make the blog better, general life advice or what content you would like to see in future. Or just say hi.. ✋🏽

Thank you for reading.. Until next week.. Ciao – Love, M ❤️

OUTFIT DETAILS
Scarf – I don’t remember but similar here – $20
Sweater – Old Navy (similar – $10) – $25
Jeans – Target – $30
Boots – I am growing old.. But similar here – $80 and here – $50
Bag – India

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39 comments

  2. Love this post babe! Yes blogging is a hard work, and we have to learn and grow.
    I think is about the journey, and if we are consistent we can rich our goals!
    I always thought that was hard but not so hard 🙂
    The most important thing is I think is learning the right strategies, and apply the.
    Have a great week babe.
    Love, Erica
    http://www.ericavoyage.com

  8. Hahaha this is ridiculous, I myself love to be Famous (Of course! everyone of us wanted that!) Well, let’s just wait the time for us to be discover, hopefully soonest cause I can’t wait 😀 haha

  11. I LOVED reading your post and have so much to say, as usual. Fame is overrated. True happiness is underrated. (I think I should write about this) And that’s precisely the difference between caring about follower/comment/like count vs just blogging and Instagramming for yourself. Truth be told, I was like that too. But I’ve made a conscious decision not to be like that and focus on the true reasons of why I’m doing what I’m doing. And you know the best part? I don’t feel the pressure like I used to and feel so much more liberated. Kudos to you for having come this far and doing things on your own terms. 2017 is going to be an awesome blogging year! <3 <3

    1. Awww I am sooo glad to have you back Tivoli! And yes you should so definitely write about it.. Becase I know you’ll share something wonderful that all of us so so need. I am also changing my mindset slowly and it sure is helping alot! Thank you so much for stopping by :*

  13. This post made me laugh! Blogging is hard work, and sometimes reality is very different from expectations. But it’s a journey with really rewarding results sometimes so it’s best to enjoy the ride haha!
    xo
    Siffat
    http://icingandglitter.com

  14. This is the best post I have read!!! I am so happy to hear you have found your ground, your space, your voice. I feel so happy for you. There is nothing more important in the world than you and your happiness. I feel lucky that I realized this very early on, I let go of all outcome. I enjoy the process than the product. We work hard but it doesn’t have to be accepted by everyone, only us. If I love my work, nothing else matters. I made a decision to use my voice about things I love. I do it in real life why not virtual, I loved the post where you wrote about depression and help. It was my favorite too. I agree with you, the tribe which inspires you is all we need. I love the connections I have made, the real ones. I care for these girls like my own. Thank you love for sharing this. It is always so inspiring and motivating. Keep rocking. Slow and steady wins the race, I believe in this. Love- Tanvi @kapofstyle

    1. Thank you so much Tanvi for your sweet sweet comment :* I am learning slow and steady to blog for myself and ofcourse provide some kind of value to my readers.. I am so glad to have met you and so many other wonderful ladies. Loving your recent encouragement of women all around. You go girl <3 Have a wonderful rest of the week!

  15. You gorgeous funny woman! I loved reading this article, I could relate to so many points you mentioned. Keep writing, more power to you and every blogging girl around! XOXO

  17. Hey Manmeet ….. that was a wonderful post ! I started blogging too with a few out of the hat expectations 　 But over the years I have learnt that it is more healing for me to blog and I have stuck to that irrespective of the number of followers and comments. Never forget that if you can make atleast one person think, feel, inspire, your job is done as a blogger….. So keep blogging and enjoy it no matter what! 　

    1. Hey Shwetha, Thank you so much for the inspiration.. I am definitely getting a hang of this world now and becoming a bit more clearer in terms of what I want to achieve. Thank you for aways supporting me. You have a wonderful blog too :*

  18. Are you kidding me? You are a super duper amazing woman and one of the best blogger’s i have known so far! Probably the first one who’s post i read thoroughly till the end. Honestly i would want to copy and paste this post coz everything i feel and have learnt from blogging is all in there! You are not famous coz blogging for you or (me) is more than just taking pictures in nice clothes and it definitely takes a lot of time and though process to write something that’s very knowledgeable and entertaining at the same time.
    I am with you in this game . Keep inspiring and sending my love & more power to you <3
    http://www.theurbanista.net/how-to-style-patched-bomber-jacket/

    1. Awww Tanvi you are so kind!! You made my day ❤️ And I love reading your posts too, so keep writing and inspiring.. I cant wait to read all about your marriage experience.. I soo agree that writing a post that provides value is very time consuming but oh so worht it in the end.. Send you all the love and good vibes :*

  19. Yet again , reading your post gave me that fuzzy warm feeling and so thank you very much for that. Also thank you for being an amazing person who is real and believable, who knows that struggles are real but life is beautiful, who has an electrifying persona which sparks everyone with great positivity and enthusiasm who ever meets you even through virtual medium.
    Your posts are for the soul and the mind, your smile is for the heart.
    I look forward to reading posts from you and it means a lot to me because honestly I am very selective in choosing where I spend my precious time on the internet 😉
    Wishing you all the great things in life hun!
    hugs,
    Saabri
    http://www.phashionbug.com

  20. OOHHHHHH do I love this post girl. I thought the same way. It always just takes time and a whole lot of effort. Everything you have said I’m sure even the big bloggers have thought themselves. We seem to all get ahead of ourselves. I’m just happy that we all have dreams that big. It is so important and impressive. I’m here for you always. You are a joy.

    http://www.naturallyfarout.com
    -Kierra

  21. Hey Monika..I just loved this post . You wrote down the same feelings I went through an year ago ..believe me Iam still not famous hahaha.!! Such incredible points aptly written ..the conclusion we get up to is to keep working and stop worrying about getting more or losing followers. Some gain success little early but end of the day writing that one single post makes me happy and content…this is all we need and keep growing our little space of thoughts.!! 🙂

    Love ❤️
    Stay Gorgeous

  22. I had read this post earlier, but could not comment.
    So relate to what you are saying here, specially the part of not getting obsessed with social media.
    As long as it is enjoyable I want to blog and not worry about how it is doing.
    Love reading your posts, and don’t let the number game dull your magic!
    Richa | Fancier’s World