Palate for Style

Welcome back to another post in the self-love series dedicated to the month of love. ❤️ Btw, I have come up with not one but 2 hashtags for this series. I tell you this girl Monika is something 😎. So the hashtags are –  #crazystupidselflove #februaryselfloveseries. Ok I agree that the first one may or may not be very original and I may or may not have taken inspiration from one Ryan Gosling movie but adding ‘self’ between crazystupid and love was entirely my idea. 🙈 And the second one is *cough cough just plain obvious Mon* entirely my invention! *seriously?*

SELF-LOVE 102 BEGINS

The second post in the self-love series is all about being your authentic, crazy, magical self when you are in a relationship. (Incase you missed the first post, check it out here). What are we waiting for? Let’s get started! And as always, it  begins with a background story.. Now now don’t roll your eyes princesses. Remember all fairytales begin with..

Once upon a time, I was scared to speak up for myself and too afraid to show my personality. It took me the longest time to reach a stage where I became comfortable with who I am and was ready to just be me. Whether that involved dancing with all my heart and expressions, being extremely honest with the person I decided to have my happily ever after, wearing the brightest colors, letting my inner boho child speak through clothes, letting go of toxic relationships, making peace with things that couldn’t change, being opinionated, not afraid to say no or call out if someone hurt me.. In a nutshell, I was ready to stop hiding my magic aka true self!

Each one of us is pure magic. The way we think, the way we act, the way we react, the way we move, the way we talk.. Everything about us is so so unique. But sadly, we usually tend to shy away from showing the world our sunshine, especially when in a relationship. Most of us mold ourselves to fit better as a couple, which is completely fine..Ofcourse there will be compromises but the problem happens when those compromises are made at the expense of your core personality..

I love being in love but what I love even more is being myself unapologetically when I am in love. I have been in terrible relationships like every other person. Oh don’t even get me started on how much I changed to get the attention and love of my supposedly “true loves”. 🙈 Okay guys I was not so young, definitely naive and had absolutely no confidence. Mistakes happen.. But my point is, don’t change who you are to fit into what the other person thinks you should be. This is by far the best piece of relationship advice I can give. Not that I am a relationship guru or something.. oh wait the prospect of being one is kinda interesting 😏..

Monika – The love guru who may or may not steal movie names to create her own hashtags!

But seriously chicas, don’t be afraid to let your personality shine in a relationship. The right man/woman will love you, quirks included. When I met Mr. M, I really wasn’t sure about where we were headed but one thing I was entirely sure about was that I wasn’t going to be afraid of being myself. Yes, I am messy, short tempered, animated, a big sloth, brutally honest at times when I shouldn’t be and most importantly,  fight the biggest fight at night when it comes to brushing my teeth 🙈. In short, most of things Mr. M isn’t. Oh this doesn’t mean that he has no quirks but that’s a story for another day. For all my quirks, I am also extremely loving, trustworthy, fiercely loyal, invest my heart and soul in creating a warm home and most importantly, cook the best food.😉 So why should I mold my awesome personality to fit into what works/is comfortable for someone else? No, I won’t do that and neither should you! *ok maybe the brushing part can improve but all the other messy parts stay!*

BE YOU, unapologetically. BE YOU, fiercely. If you are an extrovert, don’t stop interacting with friends to please your partner. If you are introvert, don’t start going to parties all the time to make your partner happy if it makes you unhappy. If you love love love wearing clothes like Phoebe, don’t start dressing like Rachel. *my husband loves Rachel and I Phoebe.. so you know where it’s coming from*. If you love dancing, don’t stop dancing just to accommodate your partner’s lack of enthusiasm. You both are different people and it’s absolutely OKAY to not love all the same things. Don’t stop being you unless being you is causing more harm than good. Then changing might be a good idea ! 😋

Choosing to let your magic shine, which may be a different kind of magic than what your spouse expected/expects, does not mean that you don’t love him/her. It means that you love him/her enough to show your raw, real and honest self. Ah what a privilege it is to know someone so deeply! And don’t you dare pretend to be someone else to feel loved. That’s like cheating yourself of the love you deserve. The right person will love not only your best traits but make home of all your messy parts too. 😊

Oh btw you are freaking awesome! Always always always remember that. SO PLEASE STOP HIDING YOUR MAGIC SUNSHINE AND FILL YOUR LOVE TANK WITH ALL THE SELF-LOVE!!

ABOUT THE OUTFIT 

Is it spring weather yet? Not yet? Well nevermind, my wardrobe is already getting filled with florally prints. Ok honestly, I got my waxing done recently so I was like  ‘hell yeah I am wearing a dress!’ and that’s how this outfit was born😆 Also, I absolutely love how bright, happy this dress looks and the length was the cherry on top. The jacket and booties make it perfect for a slightly chilly day!

Are you guys enjoying the self-love series? I want each one you to feel awesome about yourself. We  spend so much time caring and tending for others that it’s important to fill our life with all the self-love. I hope this space makes you feel a little bit better and a lot more happier about yourself. I’ll see you all next week. Ciao – Love, M ❤️

Never lose yourself in a relationship. 

Love your partner fiercely, but always follow your unique dreams and desires.

Be true to you.

OUTFIT DETAILS 

Dress – Target – $35

Jacket – don’t remember (similar options here)

Booties – DSW– (tonnes of wonderful options here) $30

Neckpiece – India

Bag – Gift